It’s freezing outside. Let’s delve deep into your personality and see what we can find shall we? What fun! What else to do on a cold winters day. And for those of you in warmer climates….do you feel our pain, on the extent we have to go to keep ourselves warm and cozy? We have to read blogs written by someone who’s typing just to keep her fingers warm!
You’re having a conversation with your friends. Do you ask interesting questions? i.e.-, If you were granted three wishes…, If you were stuck on a deserted island, which one album would you want with you and why? What’s your biggest regret in life? (besides starting to read this blog 🙂 ) Or are you the type of person that likes to stay on the shallow part of the pool? i.e.–What’s the weather like today? Did you see Game of Thrones last night? I really like your sweater.
There’s nothing wrong with either type. But can you guess which side of the pool I dive into? I love going deep. The deeper the better—Keep your minds out of the gutter people–that’s for later :-). As long as we can keep the vocabulary within 3 syllables I love delving into other peoples brains and seeing what makes them tick. And if you think we have to be best friends for me to want this, think again! I can have deep conversations with someone I just met 2 minutes ago. And if you don’t believe me ask my friends and family….much to their chagrin.
The reason for me, is that I want to get to know people. Even if it’s just a five minute conversation. People are interesting. Just the other day, I started talking to a 40ish man reading a graphic novel by Neil Gaiman. I’ve always been curious about graphic novels but from the adult point of view. And I found something in common…I recognized the name Neil Gaiman. Then we started talking about his teenage daughter and trying to get her interested in reading etc. This to me, is so much more interesting than the weather!
A few years back, while waiting at the airport with my daughter, I saw three, what looked like, rappers coming down the stairs. All three had white washcloths. And they were coming from the arrivals section of the airport, so I was curious. So I asked them. And they stopped and talked with me and we had some laughs. I honestly can’t remember the reason for the washcloths. All I can remember is my daughters reaction. “Mom, you can get anyone to stop and talk to you-unbelievable”.
Little anecdote: My husband and I and another couple were at this fancy country club restaurant down south (they are not as open down south as they are up north-at least from MY experience). At the other side of the restaurant sat two tables of about 5-6 people each. Women at one table, men at the other. Obviously, couples separated. From afar, I was trying to figure out who matched up with whom (who?). Can you guess what happened next? It wasn’t “afar” for long. With my husband and friends practically begging me not to, I merrily went over to their tables to start chit-chatting with them. These were couples in their early 70s. Married for quite some time. I told them I wanted to see if I could match them up. Most of them were game for this. One was NOT. One did not share my enthusiasm of meeting new people, conversing with them and seeing compatibility. I think problem in boudoir more than problem with ME! But did I let that deter me? What do you think? Did I do a good job of matching up? Well no. But that’s because I didn’t have time to ask probing questions. See how I did that nice little circle of rounding this blog up? If I had time, and that woman wasn’t giving me the evil eye, I would have felt more compelled to do a more thorough job!
Get to know the stranger next to you. It might be me and I’ll write a blog about you 🙂
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Were you born with your engaging personality or did it develop over time? I’m curious, too, about what makes others tick; scratch the surface and there’s often a hidden vein of humor or warmth or talent. But how do you keep people from thinking you’re the crazy cat lady? If I tried doing what you do, they’d run in the other direction!
It certainly developed over time and confidence. And trust me, I don’t always get positive results. But most of the time I do. And i believe it’s because I truly am interested in other people. And I think they can tell. Once they realize I don’t “want”anything from them. I’m not trying to sell them anything. I find a common bond and make them feel comfortable. You can tell they then relax and just talk. It’s a wonderful feeling. Of course the other 10% think I’m a crazy cat lady!!