So here’s something interesting that happened to me the other day. It’s the first day of a new class that I’m taking. Yes-I’m taking another mindfulness class, I like it that much. Plus I fell off the wagon during the holidays. BUT that doesn’t matter, does it? Because, the important thing is that I’m choosing to start up again! Anyway, that’s not the point of the story 🙂
As soon as I walk in, a woman from my first mindfulness class, (let’s call her Marty-I don’t know if she wants anonymity or not), was so happy to see me. She said she was specifically thinking of me this morning and wondering if I would be in this class. We hugged and she was truly smiling. Now I remember this woman from the other class but we never had a deep connection. She sat on the other side of the room of 25 people. I could tell that she was going through some painful issues, not that anything specific was ever mentioned. Our personalities, I’m guessing are totally different. She’s petite, very quiet, kind of in her own cocoon. I’m more vocal (obviously), take up more space just by spreading and stretching my limbs whenever I want to, crack jokes whether the timing is completely appropriate. You get my point in our differences. Think of quiet deer vs noisy chipmunk!
So where am I going with this?!? You–the universal you–never know how you’re going to affect another person! How people see you–what do you want them to see? I’m asking, not judging. For me, I don’t want them to see the nicest person, or the prettiest person, or the funniest person (I mean you can if you WANT to 🙂 ) I want them to see a REAL person! With all their ups and downs and flaws and greatness. Heck, I’ll walk into Barnes & Noble (my hangout) and tell all who’s listening, “I’m in a grumpy mood, watch out!” I figure if you give fair warning….
But this is the real me. Took me years to get here. And I think you should try and be the real you. Not everyone is going to like it. Another lesson I learned from being a fitness instructor with lots of different classes taught by different instructors. You have to be you. Some people will like your classes and some will want to go to another instructor. But that’s OK. It really is! This way, you’re having fun in your class and so are your students. Just like life….you’re having fun in life and so are the people around you!
But just like how this other woman remembered me and actually CARED whether or not I was in class…….That’s how much affect you can have on people just by…….wait for it…….can you guess what I’m going to say?……
Just by smiling at someone!!!! Yes I said it! OK maybe this smile is a little over the top….you might get put in the loony bin if you look like this at strangers!
You smile at someone holding a door for you. Maybe even say hello, thank you, make a small joke–anything. That small act will make them smile. That interaction will put a tiny pep in their step and they will smile to someone else. And so on, and so on. I kid you not! Specifically people that WON’T smile. You get the most bang for your buck with them! They take more effort getting a smile out of them but it’s worth it. I know you’ve heard this before….smile, pass it forward, blah blah blah. But come on–it can’t hurt! Takes two seconds. What’s the worse that can happen? You put a crease in your cheek?
So go out tomorrow, look around at all the people. You never know who’s watching and who’s day you will make!!!